THINGS . . . TO KNOW about dr. haddock & the helping process
I am pleased that you have considered coming to me for assistance. Spiritual direction is a very personal shared interaction between two or more people and should not be entered into lightly. Before you begin there are some things you will want to know. Legally, this information is referred to as “Informed Consent.”
Christian Spiritual Direction vs. Coaching vs. Counseling
Formal spiritual direction includes relationships that are explicitly defined as spiritual direction with a clear separation of roles between spiritual director and spiritual directee. Meetings are usually scheduled in advance on a regular basis, and a spiritual directee normally has only one formal director. Coaching helps clients work on their goals for the future and create a new life path. Counseling includes spending time examining the past and looking for solutions to emotional concerns. If you are experiencing stress caused by your lifestyle choices, a coach can help you, but if you have ongoing anxiety or mood problems caused by emotions and thoughts that emerge from how you see and interpret the world, then a counselor would be a better choice. ”
The following information is designed to help you know what you can expect from spiritual direction, better understand the potential benefits, and the limitations of what we will be doing:
Formal spiritual direction, including side effects
Christian spiritual direction cannot be effective if you only concentrate on the issues and concerns on a regular basis. Therefore, as part of my approach, I will offer you an opportunity to record all sessions. If you own newer technology, bring a digital recorder that you own if like. I just ask all of my directees to record each session so you can go over the content at least once between sessions.
I will also ask that you do specific activities and/or read specific books that will help to speed up the time it takes for you to work out your concerns and problems. Call this anything you like, it ends up being homework.
The process of improvement requires a great deal of work and understanding. To help accomplish this, I offer a variety of methods to assist you:
To be able to change behaviors that lead to healthy outcomes and consequences, you will need to understand your experiences and the learning process. This is not always easy.
Spiritual direction is intended to help you grow in your relationship with God (the trinity). In the process, you may also want assistance to alleviate problems and help you reach goals, but sometimes, at first, as you face the root problems, you may feel worse. I may also ask you to try on some new thoughts, feelings or physical actions that may result in feeling awkward, uncomfortable, or like a beginner. You have a right to a satisfactory explanation for everything I ask you to do. In addition, you can move at your own pace. However, I will challenge you and your old ways of thinking and doing things. I will not offer you any promise about the results you experience. Your outcome depends on so many things.
Privacy, Confidentiality, & Financial Agreements
I respect your right to privacy and have this policy in place to maintain the confidentiality and security of your personal information.
Any and all information collected at my website will be kept strictly confidential and will not be sold, reused, rented, loaned, or otherwise disclosed. Any information you provide to Dr. Bill Haddock, DBA/Silent Partners, will be held with the utmost care, and will not be used in ways to which you have not consented. A more detailed explanation about how I care for your personal information is described below. If you have any questions, please don't hesitate to let me know.
Resale or disclosure of information to third parties: Dr. Bill Haddock, DBA/Silent Partners, does not sell, rent, loan, trade, or lease any personal information collected at my site, including my email list.
Browser information collected on the Web site: I restrict access to any personal information about you to those employees and health care agents to whom you have granted a specific release of information. I maintain physical, electronic, and procedural safeguards to guard your personal information.
As with any web site operator, Dr. Bill Haddock, DBA/Silent Partners, analyzes the Web site logs to constantly improve the value of the web site. The Web site logs are not personally identifiable, and I make no attempt to link them with the individuals that actually browse the site.
Privacy of my email lists: Dr. Bill Haddock, DBA/Silent Partners, maintains an email list to occasionally keep interested individuals informed about the practice and psychological health. When requested, I gladly remove anyone from the mailing list. I do not sell, rent, loan, trade, or lease the addresses on my list to anyone. In addition, I configure the list server software to refuse to divulge the email addresses of my list subscribers to anyone, including other list subscribers.
Categories of information I may collect:
§ Information I receive from you on intake or during the sessions;
§ Information about your health and /or previous efforts at change given to me by you;
§ Information I collect and share with others in the process of helping you; and
§ Information I receive from another agency that may be related to the problems for which you received services from Dr. Bill Haddock, DBA/Silent Partners.
CONFIDENTIALITY is crucial to the spiritual direction process. I believe that talking to me by email or by telephone is almost as safe as talking to me in my office. Just be careful if you are using your cell phone. It can be monitored by unknown people. Also, take care when using your computer at work. That may be monitored by your employer. As a former counselor, coach and consultant, I consider it my duty to protect the confidentiality and privacy of my clients, whether I work with clients through email, by telephone, or in a face-to-face setting. As your spiritual director, I will do my part to safeguard your personal information just as I did for clients I saw in my office. The rest is up to you.
As you know, confidentiality is not 100% perfect, especially electronically. As mentioned, your employer may monitor your emails from work. Cell phones may not be that secure either.
While I cannot guarantee 100% confidentiality, there are steps that can be taken to improve privacy. The single most important thing that can be done to improve security is for you to safeguard your privacy on your end. Do NOT send me email from your computer at work – your employer has a legal right to see your email! And when using your home computer, make sure only YOU have access to your email. The least likely security breach is that someone will intercept our correspondence while it is in transit.
By submitting your personal data questionnaire by email or in person you agree to the limits of confidentiality and to pay for any expenses for missed or canceled appointments canceled without 24 hours notice (if applicable). Agreements that I make are listed below:
When appointments are desired, I will make every effort to arrange appointment times that are convenient for you. Specific hours may vary, but generally are during normal business hours. Appointments at other times may be available for special needs.
I maintain an office at my home and offer the option to meet at a public place (coffee shop, etc), at your office or home, or some other neutral place. Regardless of the option, there may be some loss of visual privacy as you or I come and go. Auditory privacy is most important, but if visual privacy is also important, then you should consider a more private option. Generally, office hours are Monday through Thursday, 9am to 5 pm. I make my own appointments and strive to keep an accurate appointment schedule. Occasionally, I make mistakes (or my computer does) and you may not get on the calendar. This means I’m either NOT here for the appointment and/or I have two people scheduled for the same time. In those instances, I can only ask you to bear with me & reschedule. I make mistakes. If you miss an appointment or cancel less then 24 hours in advance, I will give you one “freebie”. I ask that you allow me the same slack. If I make a mistake more than once, then I give you a credit. I usually space appointments 30 minutes apart and am waiting for you at your appointed time. If the previous appointment goes longer than expected, I will give you your full time. If you arrive late, then I will split the difference with you up to 15 minutes. After fifteen minutes late, then we will just use what original appointment time is left. After the first session, appointments usually last 45 – 50 minutes and I end each session promptly. When a session goes over, I charge my usual fee in 15 minute increments.
Normally, I do NOT require the payment of a fee for spiritual direction services. However, I may suggest volunteer work or donations to charitable agencies (including churches) in return for services.
Due to the time commitment I make, if you fail to show without having given at least 24 hours notice, you will be give one 'free pass.' By making an appointment, you enter into a mutual agreement with me to be in my office at the appointed time. I will strive to do the same. Exceptions for medical emergencies will be considered. If failure to keep appointments in a timely manner surfaces as an issue, then termination of services will be considered. You also agree to discuss with Dr. Haddock, if you have any questions.